Wednesday, February 27, 2008

the bitterness in my heart...

I have a great mother. She has given birth to and reared 6 children. Now that I have children of my own, I have grown to appreciate even more all she did (and continues to do) for me and my siblings. Having said that, I still haven't been able to forgive my mom for one thing... It's haunted me and my 3 sisters for years and the bitterness just won't go away. For a large chunk of my childhood I sported an afro. This frightening hairdo was actually done on purpose by the woman who supposed to have my best interest at heart. Every few months my dear mother would give the girls perms... I had beautiful natural curls when I was young, but the perming continued nonetheless.
If you dare, take a look at these brutal pictures of the scary reality that was my hair...


Here is a group shot from nineteen eighty something.... This is my family!! I am the little lady in front wearing pink pants. All the girls have the famous Beckstead home done perm! Gotta love the 80's.

I feel the resentment leaving. Blogging can be very therapeutic.
Dad- I miss your stache days... I would consider growing it again.
Mom- I love you! (and I forgive you for frying my young healthy hair)

Sunday, February 24, 2008

what i love about sundays

We have church at 11 this year!! ~YAY~
Mike doesn't have meetings until 9:30 (so now I can shower on Sunday mornings!!) and the kids can just enjoy having the morning to themselves before church. Last year they would wake up to me trying to dress them and cram breakfast down their throats so we could get out the door... Here is our new Sunday morning ritual - relaxing and reading books...

Thursday, February 21, 2008

evening of enchantment















Last night Princess Morgan was escorted by her prince charming, Jacob, to see all her favorite disney princesses on ice. Jake was the perfect prince - he even brought his sword in case he had to fight off any dragons to protect her honor. He was such a gentleman all evening; he danced with her and held her hand while they walked to the car so she wouldn't get lost.

Morgan was so excited to see them move in real life. Her favorite part was when they would spin and their pretty dresses would twirl around in the air. She even sang along while watching her favorite scene on the magic carpet.
I asked Morgan if she wanted a light up princess wand that was all the rage, but she said no. At intermission I asked if she wanted candy or popcorn and she said no, just soda. She was such a cheep date! I love my little princess!

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

tagged...

Us so many years ago... 8 to be exact...





















I know Valentines is over, but Ann Dee tagged me so here goes…

1. Where did you meet?
We met at the bus stop. We were going to school at Utah State and we met while waiting of the bus to shuttle us up to class. It was just after 7 in the morning and Mike asked me, “Do you know what time it is.” He was so smooth.

2. What was the first thought that went through your head when you met?
He’s got great dimples.

3. Do you remember what he was wearing?
Definitely – he was wearing jeans, a gray long sleeve shirt with a t-shirt over the top. He had his blue school bag on his shoulder with it crossing over his chest. I thought he was a babe.

4. Where was the first time you kissed this person?
We were in my apartment at Utah State after our second date… We just got back from seeing John Bytheway speak. There nothing like John Bytheway to set the mood.

5. How did he ask you out?
He remembered where I lived from our bus encounter and just stopped by one day. When he came by, I had just gotten out of the shower and was so embarrassed that I was in my robe and had wet hair. He asked me out for that night, but I already had another date. I was sad and thought about blowing off my other date, but decided not to. Then he asked me out for the next night and I was able to go.

6. Where did you go for your first date?
We went with Mike’s friends to a hockey game. The game was about an hour away and it was a blizzard outside. I remember thinking Mike was such a polite driver… (what happened to that man??) Afterwards we went to get ice cream blizzards. He asked me to share one with him and I thought “Yes, he wants to eat out of the same cup as me, he doesn’t think I’m disgusting.” We still share everything to this day.

7. How long did you know this person before you became a couple?
We were pretty much a couple from day one. I had been dating a few people regularly when I met Mike and was enjoying the freedom, but once we went out I knew I didn’t want to go out with anyone else ever again.

8. Has this person ever proposed to you?
Yes- but he owes me another proposal...

9. Do you and this person have kids together?
2 kids – one of each

10. Have you ever broken the law with this person?
Unfortunately yes. Many years ago, before we had kids, we went to see a movie. When the movie was over we decided we didn’t want to go home, so we snuck into another movie without paying. I still feel guilty about it 6 years later…

11. When was the first time you realized that you liked this person?
I liked him on our first date – but really liked him on our second.

12. Do you get along with any of the ex's of your partner?
Mike was a one girl man all growing up. He had one girlfriend for many years, but I’ve never had the chance to meet her. I’d like to think if I ever do meet her, we’d get along great. After all, the man has great taste in women.

13. Do you trust this person?
Very much so!

14. Do you see your partner in your future?
I married him and had children with him, so I’m thinking…. Yes. (Kind of a dumb question…)

15. What’s the most expensive thing this person has given you?
My mini van, baby!! Mike is a frugal guy and doesn’t like debt at all. I appreciate this quality very much. He decided he didn’t want debt for my car so we waited and saved up until he could buy it for me in cash. He came through just in time too – he bought it two days before Myles was born.

16. What is one thing he does that gets on your nerves?
After he runs (and this man runs hard and sweats a lot) he takes his sweaty work out clothes and piles them on top of the washing machine. Then he closes the door. When I open the door and go in the laundry room the stench knocks me over…

17. What is one thing you do that gets on his nerves?
There are many to pick from…When I’m sick I tend to cough a lot – especially at night. He tries to be nice about it at first, but after about 10 times of being woken up, he starts grunting loud and thrashing in the bed. I feel so guilty and try to hold it in, but I just can’t. Then, he starts trying to give me tips. My favorite is, “Just relax your throat – then you won’t cough…” He should have been a doctor.

18. Where do you see each other in 15 years from now?
Mike will be 45 and I’ll be 43. I hope we’ll have at least 4-5 kids - maybe 6 if Mike gets his way. Mike will most likely be bald and I’ll be all stretched out from having lots of kids!! It will be wonderful!

I TAG ...My twin sister Brooke because she had her anniversary on Valentines Day!! She has a cute new blog at http://hiatts4ever.blogspot.com/

I also tag Nina – this is my sad attempt to convince her to start a blog.
And really anyone else who wants to do it. I don't want to make anyone feel obligated, but I'm really tagging everyone.

Friday, February 15, 2008

valentine dilemna

Morgan has always been surrounded by boys. She doesn't have very many little girl friends close by, but that's okay because she has plenty of little boy friends. Usually this isn't a problem, but on Valentines Day this poses some serious issues. Allow me to give a little history. Morgan has been going through a wanting to get married phase lately and she has all the details worked out. The Plan: grow a little bigger and go to the temple with her Lukie. This has been the plan for quite some time now.
Well, yesterday (Valentine's Day) Lukie was a no show. No valentine, no visit, not even a phone call. This made Morgan question her future. You see, Luke's big brother Jake (who has been trying to win Morgan over lately) did everything right on Valentine's Day. He came home with her after preschool for a Valentine's Day lunch, he made her a heart cookie, he gave her a spiderman valentine, and most importantly he made her laugh.
Here she is with her new Valentine, Jake (they just got home from their preschool Valentine party - which explains the face paint)...

But then Carter came over. Carter has been in her life even longer than Jake and Luke, and he was her first love... Hum, maybe Carter is the perfect Valentine. After all, Carter really cares about her feelings and shares everything with her. What a tough decision.
And she picks....

LUKE! Even after he didn't even acknowledge her on Valentine's Day, her heart still belongs to Luke. I have a feeling she is going to fall for the bad boy jerks in high school...

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

dehner birthday bash

The Dehner's had 4 birthdays all in one week, so we decided on one big celebration. Aunt Jody and her new man, Tom, were in town finalizing wedding plans and were able to celebrate with us. It was fun to meet Tom and we are excited to have him in the family!



I was a slacker and didn't take any pictures at the party, so thank you Kurt for all the nice shots!

Friday, February 8, 2008

a dear old friend

We went to our friend's house tonight and our kids got to play with their new puppy. I watched their little faces light up as this cute little puppy licked their faces and I couldn't help but become overwhelmed with guilt. I have lived the past year knowing that I am the reason we don't have a dog in our home anymore. It's a somewhat long and pathetic story, so I'll spare you most of the details. It turns out that I was not smarter than our Jack-Russell terrier, Paul (who obviously was named by Mike). It is an understatement to say that Paul ruled our home. After a tearful phone call to Mike telling him how Paul had just attacked me, (don't laugh he may be small, but he could draw blood and rip pants) Mike came home and took him to his new home. (I don't want to talk about that part....)

Anyway, I'm feeling a little reminiscent about Paul tonight so I thought I'd share some favorite pictures of our old pup.

This first picture is Mike's favorite.


And this is my favorite picture. Paul and Morgan were great friends which made our decision so difficult. It's still hard for me at times to think about what we are missing out on,
but then I jump back into reality and thank my lucky stars that we don't have a dog anymore!

Thursday, February 7, 2008

I'm sad...


We all saw it coming, but when Romney suspended his presidential campaign today my heart sank. I'm experiencing feelings I haven't felt since high school... You know, the feeling of being dumped by someone you're still "in love" with. Going through your mind every little thing that possibly could have changed things. Knowing no matter how much you wish it were different - it never will be.... that feeling.... Oh Mitt, you were the best man for the job, no doubt in my mind.
Well, for the serious lack of a better candidate, (and I find myself cringing a little while typing this), I say Go McCain.
Arh - why did it come to this... I must be in denial... I have this uncontrollable urge to get on my knees and beg him to stay. Geesh - it really is like high school :)

Monday, February 4, 2008

myles on tv??




So did you hear Myles was on TV last night during the super bowl... Here is a link to his commercial for etrade.


click here

(Thanks Krystal for the info.)




Sunday, February 3, 2008

Mike's 30

My man turned 30 on groundhogs day. To celebrate I surprised him by taking him out for some grub with all his favorite people waiting in secret to shower him with love and birthday wishes. I've honestly never been able to get anything past him, so I was shocked to see that he was actually surprised when he saw everyone sitting there.

(Going from left to right: Dehners, Nadaulds, Brostroms, Steve & Candice)

We tried out The Melting Pot for the first time and I must say it was awesome. Everything is fondue style (except the salad of course). We started our dipping experience with cheese fondue; cheesy spinach artichoke dip was the best! After we cooked our meat chunks fondue style we moved on to the best part of the night - dessert. We dipped yummy desserts into chocolate fondue. It was one of the best meals out we've ever had.

Then they pulled out the gifts. Here is a cluster of his favorite gifts.

Thankfully he only needs 2 of these... I'll let you figure out which two...
The best part of the night was looking at the centerpiece I brought for the table. It's a wooden cutout of Mike that he got during his high school days. It's been buried in the crawlspace in the basement, but I think I'm going to make it a permanent home on my nightstand so I can see it every night before going to sleep.
I am so blessed to have Mike in my life. He is the man of my dreams and there is no doubt that he always will be!

Friday, February 1, 2008

kalahari

Since everyone in the world remembers what they did for their 2nd birthday, we decided Myles' birthday better be a memorable one. We went for a overnighter with our buddies the Nadaulds to the indoor water park, Kalahari. If you live in Columbus, I definitely recommend checking it out. The kids had a blast and I'm sure Myles will remember this birthday forever.
The wave pool was hit with the kids....
and the dads too...
Morgan was okay with the slides if she had a partner. She's not a gutsy gal so she needed a little encouragement (if a little encouragement means picking her up screaming and forcing her to go down). After a few times she gained some confidence and loved splashing around with the rest of the kids.
She even thought about going down the big slide alone... She ended up going down the stairs to the little slide, but hey, she went down a slide alone nonetheless.
He could be just about the cutest thing ever.
Or maybe she is...
Heck, I think it's a tie.

Myles spent a good chunk of time doing his favorite thing...
shooting hoops with daddy. Nice shot!
His other favorite thing in the entire world is swinging. If only they had swings in the pool... Oh wait, they do have swings in the pool. What a birthday miracle!

Myles still struggles with telling the difference between reality and fantasy. The poor little guy thought all the animals strewn about the lodge were alive. He was paralyzed with fear when he turned and realized he was sitting in front of a rhino.
The lodge held storytime for the kids just before bed.
And then they were off to sleep. Morgan and Myles slept by each other for the first time. I came in and found them like this. I turned on the flash on my camera and shot this in the pitch black. They were so tired they didn't even bugde when I shot this.
Everyone had a great time, but it came at a price. In the wave pool Myles favorite thing to do was jump in the water onto his knees and crawl around. This was fun except for the fact that he was scraping his soft little wet feet along the grainy concrete.
He may not remember his birthday forever, but he won't forget it until these battle wounds heal.